Somebody Is Going To Die If Lilly Beth Doesn't Catch That Bouquet
The Official Southern Ladies Guide To Hosting The Perfect Wedding
By Gayden Metcalfe and Charlotte Hays
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There Will Always Be One More Last Delta Wedding
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A carpenter had been called in to build a tiered, bleacher-like affair that was draped in white organdy, with bows and swags. The custom of displaying wedding presents in this manner has gone down as the price of silver has gone up. Brides now in their forties are probably the last generation to have observed this tradition. . . .
Delta Wedding Brunch for Yankee Guests
Our friend Hebe Randolph’s family followed the custom of classically educated Southerners of former times in using names from Greek and Roman mythology. We only hope the first Hebe, the cupbearer to the immortals on Mount Olympus, had half as many china cups as our own Hebe, who is the umpteenth Hebe in her line. There are probably very few Yankees named Hebe (pronounced he-be). Hebe’s niece did not marry a Yankee. But the niece lives in New York, and so a lot of the wedding guests had not previously visited the Mississippi Delta. We wanted them to get a real taste of the Delta.
We like to think they were impressed by the bonfires Hebe’s
brother built to help them find their way to the plantation (we also like to
think our Delta bonfires are just like the ones they had in England when Prince
Charles and Lady Di got hitched). Hebe lives on Deer Creek in Leland,
Mississippi, about twelve miles from Greenville, and it is the perfect setting
for a brunch for out-of-town guests. Disaster struck, however, when the caterer
took sick. Bland Shackelford and Gayden jumped in at the last minute and saved
the day. The wedding brunch was held the day of the wedding, which was an eight
in the evening affair.........
Some Recipes From The Book
Frances Davenport Madison’s Pound Cake
We don’t want you to
think that all Delta weddings, even ones that qualify as last Delta weddings,
are big blowouts with a cast of thousands. This recipe makes a wonderful
alternative wedding cake for a smallish wedding. We don’t recommend groom’s
cakes, but we cannot say enough good things about this delicious cake. It came
with a nice note from art curator George Shackelford, whose mother, Sue
Shackelford, was a beloved lady who learned never to go out of the house without
her gloves while finishing at the Ward Belmont School in Nashville. She was also
the daughter of Mrs. Madison (1900–1991), whose specialty this was. “Here is the
wonderful pound cake recipe, dug out of Sue’s card files at Christmas in a bit
of culinary archaeology,” George wrote. “It really needs to be made when you are
expecting enough people to mostly eat it up. Otherwise you end up at 3 a.m. in
your underwear or nightgown in the kitchen sneaking just one more
slice.”
Ingredients
3 cups flour
1/2 teaspoon baking
powder
1/2 teaspoon
salt
2 sticks
butter
1/2 cup
shortening
Preheat the oven to
325°.
Add the wet
ingredients to the dry and blend to the consistency of corn meal. Then
add
3 cups
sugar
5
eggs
Blend, then
add
1 cup
milk
1/2 teaspoon rum
flavoring
1/2 teaspoon coconut
flavoring
Blend, but avoid
overworking the batter.
Place in a greased
and floured Bundt pan.
Bake at 325° until
the cake separates from the pan—about 1 hour.
Let cool for 10
minutes and remove from pan.
Glaze
1/2 cup
sugar
1/4 cup
water
Boil and stir until
thickened.
Add 1 teaspoon almond
extract. Brush glaze on cake.
Pink and White Sauce for Oysters and Shrimp
Girls from the Delta
love to use their stuff, and do they ever have the stuff. Gayden had two huge
clamshells, together weighing in at four hundred pounds, in her backyard. She
had taken a fancy to these clamshells and had them brought up from Florida. They
were so heavy, the car listed. Not content with the damage done to one
automobile, Gayden transported her enormous clamshells to Hebe’s: the freshly
shucked oysters and shrimp looked so pretty in their clamshells. (Please do not
call this a raw bar.) The shells quickly sank into the gumbo (that’s Delta for
dirt). It looked like an oyster bar for a midget, not that we have anything
against midgets, as long as they are refined. Finally, the table on which the
clamshells sat had to be shored up with a plywood and brick base. Lemon halves
were tied up with satin ribbons in little bags—of course, the lemons had been
seeded first. Bland turned up her nose at the notion of red sauce at a wedding
breakfast. But most of us have loved red sauce since we ate it on crackers as
children. Still, a tasty white sauce or a pink, pink being perfect for a wedding
breakfast, seemed more appropriate for a wedding brunch. The white sauce is
simply homemade mayonnaise—which we pronounce mi-naise. (The clamshells were
subsequently turned into birdbaths, and so we feel certain it was their last
Delta wedding.)
pink
sauce
People in the Delta
just love anchovies. Our friend Josie Winn used to call them “minnows.” At the
most famous restaurant in town, Doe’s, the owner brings out a separate bowl of
them for us to add to the salads. Lillo’s, a popular restaurant a few miles from
Greenville, is always obliged to add extra anchovies to their salads. They have
a delicious pizza baked with lots of minnows. Not recommended for the bride
within a week or two of the big day!
1 cup homemade
mayonnaise
3/4 cup bottled chili
sauce
1 teaspoon anchovy
paste
12 drops
Tabasco
2 tablespoons
tarragon vinegar
Mix all ingredients
and chill one day before serving. Taste and adjust
seasonings.
Makes about two
cups.
white
sauce
A purist prefers a
generous squeeze of lemon because it doesn’t interfere with the taste of the
oyster. This sauce, reflecting our deep and abiding love of mi-naise, is not for
purists.
Ingredients
1 cup homemade
mayonnaise
1/2 cup Durkee Famous
Sauce
2 tablespoons Creole
mustard
3 tablespoons chopped
green onions
2 tablespoons
horseradish (the jar variety found in the cooler section of the
grocery)
1 tablespoon Lea
& Perrins Worcestershire sauce
Juice of 1
lemon
1 teaspoon white
pepper
Salt and Tabasco to
taste
Combine all
ingredients and chill overnight. Correct seasonings.
Makes one and a half
cups.
Anne Hall Mcgee’s Cheese Straws
Cheese straws are
served at almost any occasion in the Delta. There are innumerable recipes, but
this is the one that was used at Hebe’s wedding
brunch.
Ingredients
8 ounces sharp or
extra-sharp Cheddar cheese
1 stick or little
more butter, softened
2 scant cups sifted
flour
1 teaspoon
salt
Cayenne pepper to
taste.
Preheat the oven to
375°.
Grate cheese in
processor. Let sit until room temp, add butter. Mix in flour, salt, and cayenne
to taste depending on how hot and spicy you want the cheese straws to be. Hot
and spicy is best. Fill cookie press fitted with ribbon disk and press onto
cookie sheet. Bake at 375° for about 12 minutes.
Makes about six
dozen.
Alsha Mccourt’s
Bloody Marys by the Gallon
At the brunch, these
were served with a celery stalk garnish.
21/2 cans (28 ounces) V8
juice
Juice of 2 limes and
2 lemons (lemons optional)
2 heaping tablespoons
horseradish
1 teaspoon celery
salt
1/4 cup Lea &
Perrins Worcestershire sauce
2 teaspoons
Tabasco
1 teaspoon black
pepper
2 teaspoon Cavender’s
Greek seasoning
2 cloves crushed
garlic
1 beef boullion cube dissolved in 1/4 cup
water
Vodka—not less than a
fifth, but Deltans prefer a liter.
Mix all ingredients
and stir.
Makes one
gallon.
Venison Grillades
This was an unusual
treat for visitors from New York—and for us. “I had never had this dish until my
sister-in-law, Martha Green, brought it up here from South Louisiana,” recalls
Bland. “I was having a dear friend who lives in England for brunch and wanted to
serve something local. My husband, Johnny, had a freezer full of venison hams
and so began the experiment. After consulting lots of books, we found a recipe
we liked, and tinkered with it.” Grillades, by the way, is a stew with a fancy
French name. Like a pot roast, grillades can be cooked forever to good
advantage. Served over grits (recipe below).
Seasoned
Flour
1 cup all-purpose
flour
2 teaspoons freshly
ground black pepper
1 teaspoon freshly
ground white pepper
1 teaspoon
cayenne
Mix in a bowl and put
aside.
Grillades
4 pounds venison
ham
6 or more tablespoons
bacon fat
2 cups chopped
scallions
1 cup chopped red
onion
3/4 cup chopped
celery
2 sliced red bell
peppers
2 or 3 large cloves
fresh garlic
4 cups beef
stock
11/2 cups red
wine
3 tablespoons tomato
paste
3 teaspoons
salt
1 teaspoon
Tabasco
bouquet
garni
3 bay
leaves
6 sprigs fresh
thyme
6 sprigs fresh
parsley
Tie the bouquet garni
ingredients in a bundle.
Preheat the oven to
350°.
Cut the meat in large
strips, about three inches long and about an inch wide. Season the flour with
salt. Dip strips in flour, but do not dip all at once, as they will get soggy.
Heat a Dutch oven until hot. Add the bacon grease. Start with the meat that is
ready, and brown. Keep going until all the meat is done. Lift the meat out of
the Dutch oven and put it in a bowl. Scrape the Dutch oven, and add the
vegetables. Cook, stirring, until the onions are clear. Put the meat back into
the Dutch oven, adding the stock, wine, tomato paste, and bouquet garni. Place a
piece of parchment paper between the lid and the pan for a perfect seal and then
put the Dutch oven into the oven and heat at 350° for 2 hours. Check, and if the
meat is not falling apart, put it back for another hour. Do this until it is
fork-tender. Adjust the seasonings and season to taste with Tabasco. This is
better after a day in the icebox (as we call the refrigerator). Bland and Gayden
highly recommend that you lift the fat if it has been
refrigerated.
Serves
twenty.