Somebody Is Going To Die If Lilly Beth Doesn't Catch That Bouquet
The Official Southern Ladies Guide To Hosting The Perfect Wedding
By Gayden Metcalfe and Charlotte Hays
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There Will Always Be One More Last Delta Wedding
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A carpenter had been called in to build a tiered, bleacher-like affair that was draped in white organdy, with bows and swags. The custom of displaying wedding presents in this manner has gone down as the price of silver has gone up. Brides now in their forties are probably the last generation to have observed this tradition. . . .
Delta Wedding Brunch for Yankee Guests
Our friend Hebe Randolph’s family followed the custom of classically educated Southerners of former times in using names from Greek and Roman mythology. We only hope the first Hebe, the cupbearer to the immortals on Mount Olympus, had half as many china cups as our own Hebe, who is the umpteenth Hebe in her line. There are probably very few Yankees named Hebe (pronounced he-be). Hebe’s niece did not marry a Yankee. But the niece lives in New York, and so a lot of the wedding guests had not previously visited the Mississippi Delta. We wanted them to get a real taste of the Delta.
We like to think they were impressed by the bonfires Hebe’s 
brother built to help them find their way to the plantation (we also like to 
think our Delta bonfires are just like the ones they had in England when Prince 
Charles and Lady Di got hitched). Hebe lives on Deer Creek in Leland, 
Mississippi, about twelve miles from Greenville, and it is the perfect setting 
for a brunch for out-of-town guests. Disaster struck, however, when the caterer 
took sick. Bland Shackelford and Gayden jumped in at the last minute and saved 
the day. The wedding brunch was held the day of the wedding, which was an eight 
in the evening affair.........
Some Recipes From The Book
Frances Davenport Madison’s Pound Cake
    
We don’t want you to 
think that all Delta weddings, even ones that qualify as last Delta weddings, 
are big blowouts with a cast of thousands. This recipe makes a wonderful 
alternative wedding cake for a smallish wedding. We don’t recommend groom’s 
cakes, but we cannot say enough good things about this delicious cake. It came 
with a nice note from art curator George Shackelford, whose mother, Sue 
Shackelford, was a beloved lady who learned never to go out of the house without 
her gloves while finishing at the Ward Belmont School in Nashville. She was also 
the daughter of Mrs. Madison (1900–1991), whose specialty this was. “Here is the 
wonderful pound cake recipe, dug out of Sue’s card files at Christmas in a bit 
of culinary archaeology,” George wrote. “It really needs to be made when you are 
expecting enough people to mostly eat it up. Otherwise you end up at 3 a.m. in 
your underwear or nightgown in the kitchen sneaking just one more 
slice.”
Ingredients
3 cups flour
1/2 teaspoon baking 
powder
1/2 teaspoon 
salt
2 sticks 
butter
1/2 cup 
shortening
Preheat the oven to 
325°.
Add the wet 
ingredients to the dry and blend to the consistency of corn meal. Then 
add
3 cups 
sugar
5 
eggs
Blend, then 
add
1 cup 
milk
1/2 teaspoon rum 
flavoring
1/2 teaspoon coconut 
flavoring
Blend, but avoid 
overworking the batter.
Place in a greased 
and floured Bundt pan.
Bake at 325° until 
the cake separates from the pan—about 1 hour.
Let cool for 10 
minutes and remove from pan.
Glaze
1/2 cup 
sugar
1/4 cup 
water
Boil and stir until 
thickened.
Add 1 teaspoon almond 
extract. Brush glaze on cake.
Pink and White Sauce for Oysters and Shrimp
Girls from the Delta 
love to use their stuff, and do they ever have the stuff. Gayden had two huge 
clamshells, together weighing in at four hundred pounds, in her backyard. She 
had taken a fancy to these clamshells and had them brought up from Florida. They 
were so heavy, the car listed. Not content with the damage done to one 
automobile, Gayden transported her enormous clamshells to Hebe’s: the freshly 
shucked oysters and shrimp looked so pretty in their clamshells. (Please do not 
call this a raw bar.) The shells quickly sank into the gumbo (that’s Delta for 
dirt). It looked like an oyster bar for a midget, not that we have anything 
against midgets, as long as they are refined. Finally, the table on which the 
clamshells sat had to be shored up with a plywood and brick base. Lemon halves 
were tied up with satin ribbons in little bags—of course, the lemons had been 
seeded first. Bland turned up her nose at the notion of red sauce at a wedding 
breakfast. But most of us have loved red sauce since we ate it on crackers as 
children. Still, a tasty white sauce or a pink, pink being perfect for a wedding 
breakfast, seemed more appropriate for a wedding brunch. The white sauce is 
simply homemade mayonnaise—which we pronounce mi-naise. (The clamshells were 
subsequently turned into birdbaths, and so we feel certain it was their last 
Delta wedding.)
pink 
sauce
People in the Delta 
just love anchovies. Our friend Josie Winn used to call them “minnows.” At the 
most famous restaurant in town, Doe’s, the owner brings out a separate bowl of 
them for us to add to the salads. Lillo’s, a popular restaurant a few miles from 
Greenville, is always obliged to add extra anchovies to their salads. They have 
a delicious pizza baked with lots of minnows. Not recommended for the bride 
within a week or two of the big day!
1 cup homemade 
mayonnaise
3/4 cup bottled chili 
sauce
1 teaspoon anchovy 
paste
12 drops 
Tabasco
2 tablespoons 
tarragon vinegar
Mix all ingredients 
and chill one day before serving. Taste and adjust 
seasonings.
Makes about two 
cups.
white 
sauce
A purist prefers a 
generous squeeze of lemon because it doesn’t interfere with the taste of the 
oyster. This sauce, reflecting our deep and abiding love of mi-naise, is not for 
purists.
Ingredients
1 cup homemade 
mayonnaise
1/2 cup Durkee Famous 
Sauce
2 tablespoons Creole 
mustard
3 tablespoons chopped 
green onions
2 tablespoons 
horseradish (the jar variety found in the cooler section of the 
grocery)
1 tablespoon Lea 
& Perrins Worcestershire sauce
Juice of 1 
lemon
1 teaspoon white 
pepper
Salt and Tabasco to 
taste
Combine all 
ingredients and chill overnight. Correct seasonings.
Makes one and a half 
cups.
Anne Hall Mcgee’s Cheese Straws
Cheese straws are 
served at almost any occasion in the Delta. There are innumerable recipes, but 
this is the one that was used at Hebe’s wedding 
brunch.
Ingredients
8 ounces sharp or 
extra-sharp Cheddar cheese
1 stick or little 
more butter, softened
2 scant cups sifted 
flour
1 teaspoon 
salt
Cayenne pepper to 
taste.
Preheat the oven to 
375°.
Grate cheese in 
processor. Let sit until room temp, add butter. Mix in flour, salt, and cayenne 
to taste depending on how hot and spicy you want the cheese straws to be. Hot 
and spicy is best. Fill cookie press fitted with ribbon disk and press onto 
cookie sheet. Bake at 375° for about 12 minutes.
Makes about six 
dozen.
Alsha Mccourt’s 
Bloody Marys by the Gallon
At the brunch, these 
were served with a celery stalk garnish.
21/2 cans (28 ounces) V8 
juice
Juice of 2 limes and 
2 lemons (lemons optional)
2 heaping tablespoons 
horseradish
1 teaspoon celery 
salt
1/4 cup Lea & 
Perrins Worcestershire sauce
2 teaspoons 
Tabasco
1 teaspoon black 
pepper
2 teaspoon Cavender’s 
Greek seasoning
2 cloves crushed 
garlic
1 beef boullion cube dissolved in 1/4 cup 
water
Vodka—not less than a 
fifth, but Deltans prefer a liter.
Mix all ingredients 
and stir.
Makes one 
gallon.
Venison Grillades
This was an unusual 
treat for visitors from New York—and for us. “I had never had this dish until my 
sister-in-law, Martha Green, brought it up here from South Louisiana,” recalls 
Bland. “I was having a dear friend who lives in England for brunch and wanted to 
serve something local. My husband, Johnny, had a freezer full of venison hams 
and so began the experiment. After consulting lots of books, we found a recipe 
we liked, and tinkered with it.” Grillades, by the way, is a stew with a fancy 
French name. Like a pot roast, grillades can be cooked forever to good 
advantage. Served over grits (recipe below).
Seasoned 
Flour
1 cup all-purpose 
flour
2 teaspoons freshly 
ground black pepper
1 teaspoon freshly 
ground white pepper
1 teaspoon 
cayenne
Mix in a bowl and put 
aside.
Grillades
4 pounds venison 
ham
6 or more tablespoons 
bacon fat
2 cups chopped 
scallions
1 cup chopped red 
onion
3/4 cup chopped 
celery
2 sliced red bell 
peppers
2 or 3 large cloves 
fresh garlic
4 cups beef 
stock
11/2 cups red 
wine
3 tablespoons tomato 
paste
3 teaspoons 
salt
1 teaspoon 
Tabasco
bouquet 
garni
3 bay 
leaves
6 sprigs fresh 
thyme
6 sprigs fresh 
parsley
Tie the bouquet garni 
ingredients in a bundle.
Preheat the oven to 
350°.
Cut the meat in large 
strips, about three inches long and about an inch wide. Season the flour with 
salt. Dip strips in flour, but do not dip all at once, as they will get soggy. 
Heat a Dutch oven until hot. Add the bacon grease. Start with the meat that is 
ready, and brown. Keep going until all the meat is done. Lift the meat out of 
the Dutch oven and put it in a bowl. Scrape the Dutch oven, and add the 
vegetables. Cook, stirring, until the onions are clear. Put the meat back into 
the Dutch oven, adding the stock, wine, tomato paste, and bouquet garni. Place a 
piece of parchment paper between the lid and the pan for a perfect seal and then 
put the Dutch oven into the oven and heat at 350° for 2 hours. Check, and if the 
meat is not falling apart, put it back for another hour. Do this until it is 
fork-tender. Adjust the seasonings and season to taste with Tabasco. This is 
better after a day in the icebox (as we call the refrigerator). Bland and Gayden 
highly recommend that you lift the fat if it has been 
refrigerated.
Serves 
twenty.